One single mom’s story on Reddit caused quite a bit of drama on the website. The mom, who goes by the throwaway Reddit name u/aitalivingcheaply, opened up to the AITA subreddit, an online community with nearly 3.2 million members, about how she uses (or rather doesn’t use) the “generous amount of child support” her ex sends to support their 4-year-old child each month.
The mom explained that she uses only a small fraction of the money on her son, putting the rest away for his future, preferring to live very frugally. Naturally, this caused some friction with her ex who believes all of the money should be spent on their son, instead of squirreling it away. You’ll find the full story below.
What do you think of the entire situation, dear Pandas? Do you think the mom was in the wrong here or do you think she had her child’s best interests in mind? Just remember, we shouldn’t be quick to judge anyone before getting to know the full context. Keep in mind that some redditors rushed to express their opinions without reading the author’s comments in full, so they had a slightly skewed view.
Parenting is extremely difficult and we can sometimes forget a simple truth—there’s no such thing as a ‘perfect’ parent, only striving to be the best possible parent for one’s children.
A mom sparked a fiery discussion online when she shared what she does with most of her son’s child support that she gets from her ex
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Here is her full story that she shared on the AITA subreddit
The redditor’s post got quite a bit of attention, netting over 12.7k upvotes and getting nearly 4k comments. Members of the AITA community were very emotional when talking about this topic.
While most redditors decided that the mom was wrong to save a large chunk of her son’s child support, she also had a lot of supporters who pointed out that she wasn’t neglecting her kid or spending the money on herself. In their opinion, she simply had a different view about finances.
Bored Panda reached out to parenting blogger Samantha Scroggin to get her opinion about the idea that parents ought to strive to be ‘perfect.’ She was very clear that there’s no such thing and that it’s all an illusion that distracts us from what’s important: our daily effort for the sake of our kids. ‘Enough’ is better than ‘perfect’ because the latter is possible.
“Literally, no one is a perfect parent. What would a ‘perfect’ parent even look like? I believe it can be harmful to have over-the-top expectations of perfection for ourselves and other parents. We’re all just trying to figure it out as we go,” Samantha, the founder of the Walking Outside in Slippers blog, told Bored Panda that we should never be too quick to judge any parent.
“Even professional experts in the field of child-rearing or mental health have questions and doubts, I’ve come to find through talking with other parents,” Samantha said that far from everything is figured out, so there are no easy answers about what a parent should or should not do. It’s less about having a crystal-clear map of directions and more about sailing rough seas in the mist, guided by opinions and personal experience.
“Parenting as depicted on Instagram with the cute little letter boards is the literally and figuratively filtered version of parenthood, and not something anyone should attempt to attain,” the parenting blogger pointed out that we should take our social media feeds with a large grain of salt (preferably a whole fistful of it if we can), as it’s a snapshot, an attempt to appear ‘perfect’ without actually being it.
“Our daily grind and best effort have to be enough when it comes to parenting,” she said.